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Elizabeth Moorchild's avatar

Although your points are reasonable and fair-minded, a laissez-faire approach does not protect women and girls from voyeurism, which -- like exhibitionism -- is a crime of sexual predation. (That's why it is bad policy to allow members of the public to lie about their sex on official IDs.)

Even more worrying, we live in an age of image-based sexual abuse. Predators bring cameras into private spaces to photograph women and girls in states of undress, photographs that can be uploaded to the internet and cause no end of horror.

At first glance, your idea makes sense, except it would institute a dangerous version of the "don't ask, don't tell" policy US president Clinton once established as a cowardly half-measure for accommodating gay and lesbian service members. It didn't work well.

Of course, lying about being the opposite sex is not like being gay.

Kathleen Lowrey's avatar

The more important question for front line staff is to whose aid should they come in cases of conflict.

It's certainly true that they can't do full checks at the door. But if a woman or girl comes to the front desk and says "there is a man in the shower, I'm uncomfortable"

the policy HAS to be siding with the woman or girl complaining. As it is, the effective policy is: tell them to fuck off, because men get what they want.

This means that if men really do pass as much as they say they do, or are as modest and etc. etc. as they claim to be, they won't have a problem. But yes, women and girls do have to have veto power and when these men are clocked and complained about, staff knows whose safety and comfort to prioritize: that of women and girls.

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